Getting to Safety

It is important to acknowledge that our most vital relational need is to be emotionally safe. Emotional safety is often our deepest vulnerability, and without emotional safety in place it is difficult, nearly impossible to truly connect. Simply put, if one does not feel safe in the presence of the other, true connection is not […]

Healthy Supportive Engagement

-Ways to use engagement to promote repair and move beyond betrayal, the use of the SUPPORT Model. Many couples come to me acknowledging that they can not break the unhealthy patterns and dysfunctional cycles that create disconnect when there has been betrayal. This can be a delicate process that requires tools to practice to promote […]

EFT in Couples therapy

Using Emotionally Focused Therapy in Couples Therapy Settings. Stage 1: Stabilization When using EFT in couples therapy, the initial objective is to identify and then de-escalate the negative cycle or in EFT language “dance”. This is often identified as the “dance of disconnect” that is referenced and even given a chosen name by the couples […]