-SEX, PORN, LOVE, SUBSTANCE/SEX ADDICTION, BETRAYAL TRAUMA & ENMESHMENT TREATMENT
Do I need recovery meetings to stay sober? Making the first step to attending a recovery meeting is no easy task. The anxiety that builds at the thought of joining a group full of strangers can be insurmountable. The reality of it all is that recovery is not achieved on an individual basis, the power […]
Read More Recovery MeetingsThe Use of Screen Accountability Tools The internet can be a dangerous place for someone struggling with compulsive sexual behaviors. Most importantly, in my experience, anyone who has ever tried to abstain from Porn and admits to being a Porn Addict has not ever been able to succeed at abstaining using sheer will power or […]
Read More Quitting PornOne of the most debated topics in mental health surrounds the concepts of addition and the many theories used to define it. What lens do you use when you look at addiction, as an illness, a disease or a disorder of learning? Many struggle to use pathologies and use such labels as illness or disorder. […]
Read More Addiction: Disease, Learning/Conditioning or Attachment Injury?Exploration of the Fantasy Relationship: This is a simple yet very insightful exercise to follow if you are wanting to explore the possibility of the Love Addiction symptoms and traits that I have acknowledged in previous articles. This simple exercise lets you explore fantasy relationships and provides insight into past or current problematic relational dynamics. […]
Read More Love Addicts Cycle of AddictionAs we mature from childhood into adults, our arousal template is formed by experiences involving family messaging, early sexual experiences that solicited arousal, religous influences, forms of abuse, magazines, televesion, movies and other forms of analog or digital media that all form together to formulate an internal process referenced as sexual arousal. Simply put, our […]
Read More Exploring the facets of the Arousal Template12 Components to Healthy Courtship So lets look at the 12 elements to healthy courtship: Noticing: Attraction: Flirtation: Demonstration: Romance: Individuation: Intimacy: Touching: Foreplay: In repeated surveys, most people say it is the best part of sex. It is often skipped over in our culture because of time pressure, stress and emphasis on genital sex […]
Read More Dimensions of healthy courtship